IMAGINATION FOR POWERFUL TRANSFORMATION

How to Get Happy by Undressing Your Unhappiness

Imagine it’s the morning of a big day ahead. You wake and walk half asleep over to the bathroom. Rub your eyes and splash some cold water on your face. Standing in front of a large bathroom you start to dress.

But, wait, what the heck are you doing? You are not putting the clothes onto yourself. Rather you are trying to dress your outer reflection…you are trying to dress the mirror!

Would you do this in real life? No you wouldn’t. But every day, people ‘dress the mirror; when it comes to their happiness.

Are You Dressing the Mirror?

Dressing the mirror is simply looking for happiness outside of yourself. You are trying to “fix” yourself by focusing in the wrong place.

We are all guilty of it because this is where we have been taught to look for happiness. And this program runs on automatic and without our awareness since we have been taught that is how it works.

For example, have you ever thought to yourself something like, I’ll be happy:

  1. Soon as I get the new car
  2. When I get that degree
  3. When I get married
  4. By finding a new partner
  5. When I make more money
  6. When I finish that project
  7. When I go on that trip
  8. On and on and on….

Ask yourself a question:

Did that work? If so for how long did that work?

How Does Dressing the Mirror Keep Me Unhappy?

Firstly, just like dressing the mirror you are focusing in the wrong place. You are placing the power to things outside of yourself. And things outside of yourself are beyond your control. And since all things outside of you change you will constantly be going up and down like a crazy yo-yo.

For example, ever plan your life to go one way and the “world” does not cooperate?

No matter how hard or how many times you try to “fix” the mirror it will not work. Wash, rinse, repeat. You have to change the way you “dress”  (cause) yourself to affect (your life) how you look.  How can you change that?

What Can I do Instead of Dressing the Mirror?

To make your reflection appear differently you have to change what is being reflected- You have to dress yourself!

You get your power back by becoming aware that you are the dresser who has been dressing yourself the wrong way. Quite simply, you realize that your happiness does not depend on anything outside of yourself. You are not separate from your happiness. That in and of itself is powerful beyond measure.

And pay attention to the fact that the meaning you attach to things in your life is crucial to your happiness. It’s crucial to your happiness because we all fear loss of meaning in our lives. But if you know you are the one who attaches meaning you are no longer helpless.

This Sounds Great but is it Practical?

Imagine that you have been practicing traditional goal setting.  You set a goal to get a promotion.

You have decided that when you get a promotion at work you will be happy. In the meantime, you drag yourself to work every morning in misery. While on the job you think, just two more weeks and I’ll be happy.

Two weeks pass. Your boss enters your office. He tells you:

Sorry, you have been passed over for the position. Now you are feeling even more miserable.

Why does this always happen to me…Life is so unfair…Nothing is under my control…Why even bother at work it doesn’t matter, etc.

To try and cheer yourself up you promise yourself you will get a new car. When you get that car, then you will be happy…….

Now imagine the same scenario with some small differences. You have been practicing feeling an unshakable happiness inside. You show up at work sociable and smiling. You think to yourself the promotion would be wonderful but my happiness does not depend on it. Regardless of what happens externally you are in control.

You finish your assignments on time and offer additional help to your boss when needed. Your boss enters your office, extends his hand and tells you:

The promotion is yours.

Wear a Happier Life Today

We have been taught that our happiness lies in external things. This is incorrect. Cause and effect have been mistakenly reversed. This is not your fault.

It’s merely become a habit over time and like any habit can be changed. You change by becoming aware that you are not separate from your happiness. You are responsible for how you experience things. You are responsible for the meaning you attach to events. You also increase the use of your imagination and create results in your life.

This places the power back in your hands. You can “dress” yourself now and leave the house happy.

PS You may want to take a peak at my You Tube video Find Your Happiness – How To Deal With Depression and What Causes Depression 

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